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The MEND Project

🌱 Empowering survivors of abuse to heal + thrive. Free trainings and resources for personal healing and for allies.👇

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📣 Webinar: Why We Overshare: Understanding Trauma Responses, Emotional Safety, and Healthy Connection

Many survivors share deeply personal things about themselves or their story quickly, only to later wonder if they said too much. Often, this pattern developed as a survival strategy in environments where safety and validation were limited.

In this webinar, we’ll talk about:
🤍Why oversharing can develop as a trauma response
🤍The connection between emotional safety and the need to be heard
🤍How to recognize this pattern with compassion and curiosity
🤍Ways to build healthier boundaries and stronger self-trust
If you’ve ever asked yourself, Why did I say all of that?, this conversation may offer clarity, language, and encouragement.

🗓 Save the Date: Thursday, May 14th, 2026 at 10 AM PST
🔗 Link in bio to sign up

Following the webinar at 11:15 AM PST, we invite you to sign up for our Restore Coaching Call, where you can ask your questions anonymously and have them answered live by Annette.

#TraumaHealing #HealingJourney #HealthyBoundaries #SelfTrust #EmotionalSafety #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaResponse #Oversharing #WhyWeOvershare


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3 weeks ago


📣 Webinar: Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Becoming the Parent Your Child Needs Post Abuse and Trauma

We’re honored to host this special webinar with @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

We hear from many protective parents who are trying to support their children after abuse and trauma, and we know how deeply needed this conversation is. Several of these parents have been part of our community for years, seeking clarity, wisdom, and hope as they navigate parenting in the aftermath of harm.

This webinar will be in a Q&A format, and Dr. Cocchiola will share as much insight and practical guidance as she can during our hour together.

We’ll be discussing questions like:
✨ How abuse and trauma can change a child’s needs
✨ The ways children may express trauma, and how those signals can be misunderstood
✨ How the parent-child relationship can shift after trauma
✨ What it really means to become the parent your child needs
✨ Why attachment matters so much in healing
✨ How a parent’s own trauma and triggers can affect a child’s trauma state
✨ When to seek professional help and what kinds of support are most effective
✨ What red flags to watch for when choosing a mental health professional
✨ The hope, resilience, and healing that are possible for children

It means so much to our team and community to have Dr. Cocchiola with us for this very important topic. We’re grateful she is sharing her time and wisdom with us. 💛

🗓️ Wednesday, April 8 | 10 AM PST
🔗 Link in bio to register

#TheMENDProject #MENDProject #HealingAfterAbuse #EmotionalAbuseHealing #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #YouAreNotAlone #SurvivorSupport #TraumaInformedParenting


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2 months ago

📣 Webinar: Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Becoming the Parent Your Child Needs Post Abuse and Trauma

We’re honored to host this special webinar with @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

We hear from many protective parents who are trying to support their children after abuse and trauma, and we know how deeply needed this conversation is. Several of these parents have been part of our community for years, seeking clarity, wisdom, and hope as they navigate parenting in the aftermath of harm.

This webinar will be in a Q&A format, and Dr. Cocchiola will share as much insight and practical guidance as she can during our hour together.

We’ll be discussing questions like:
✨ How abuse and trauma can change a child’s needs
✨ The ways children may express trauma, and how those signals can be misunderstood
✨ How the parent-child relationship can shift after trauma
✨ What it really means to become the parent your child needs
✨ Why attachment matters so much in healing
✨ How a parent’s own trauma and triggers can affect a child’s trauma state
✨ When to seek professional help and what kinds of support are most effective
✨ What red flags to watch for when choosing a mental health professional
✨ The hope, resilience, and healing that are possible for children

It means so much to our team and community to have Dr. Cocchiola with us for this very important topic. We’re grateful she is sharing her time and wisdom with us. 💛

🗓️ Wednesday, April 8 | 10 AM PST
🔗 Link in bio to register

#TheMENDProject #MENDProject #HealingAfterAbuse #EmotionalAbuseHealing #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #YouAreNotAlone #SurvivorSupport #TraumaInformedParenting


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2 months ago

📣 Webinar: Counsel for Protective Parents Navigating the Court System with Special Guest @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

Join us for a powerful 1-hour webinar featuring a conversation with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and our founder, Annette Oltmans.

This event is for protective parents navigating the court system and anyone seeking clarity around coercive control, family court challenges, and advocacy for children.

Whether you're in the midst of the process or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with vital insight, legal strategies, and hope.

🕐 Don’t miss it—March 19 at 9 AM PST
📍Link in Bio to Register

#ChildAbuseAwarenessMonth #ProtectiveParent #CoerciveControl #TheMENDProject #FamilyCourtSupport #DomesticAbuseAwareness #AdvocacyMatters


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2 months ago

📣 Webinar: Counsel for Protective Parents Navigating the Court System with Special Guest @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

Join us for a powerful 1-hour webinar featuring a conversation with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and our founder, Annette Oltmans.

This event is for protective parents navigating the court system and anyone seeking clarity around coercive control, family court challenges, and advocacy for children.

Whether you're in the midst of the process or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with vital insight, legal strategies, and hope.

🕐 Don’t miss it—March 19 at 9 AM PST
📍Link in Bio to Register

#ChildAbuseAwarenessMonth #ProtectiveParent #CoerciveControl #TheMENDProject #FamilyCourtSupport #DomesticAbuseAwareness #AdvocacyMatters


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2 months ago

📣 Webinar: Counsel for Protective Parents Navigating the Court System with Special Guest @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

Join us for a powerful 1-hour webinar featuring a conversation with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and our founder, Annette Oltmans.

This event is for protective parents navigating the court system and anyone seeking clarity around coercive control, family court challenges, and advocacy for children.

Whether you're in the midst of the process or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with vital insight, legal strategies, and hope.

🕐 Don’t miss it—March 19 at 9 AM PST
📍Link in Bio to Register

#ChildAbuseAwarenessMonth #ProtectiveParent #CoerciveControl #TheMENDProject #FamilyCourtSupport #DomesticAbuseAwareness #AdvocacyMatters


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2 months ago

📣 Webinar: Detaching With Love: Caring for Yourself While Loving Others

🌿 What Does It Mean to Detach With Love? 🌿

Detaching with love is not walking away cold—it’s walking away clear.

It means you stop carrying what isn’t yours to fix, while holding compassion. It’s clarity in action + giving yourself permission to care well for your body, mind, and soul.

✨ In this new webinar, we’ll explore:

-What detaching with love really looks like
-How it connects to healthy boundary-work

Join Annette and special guest @karla_d_downing as we reclaim our power of choice, voice, and dignity—together.

🗓 Save the Date: Thursday, February 12th 2026, at 10 AM PST

🔗 Link in bio to register

#detachingwithlove #boundarieswithlove #selfcareisnotselfish #emotionalclarity #healingjourney #themendproject


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3 months ago

📣 Upcoming Webinar: Your Guide to MEND’s Resources for Clarity and Healing

✨ Welcome to our first webinar of 2026 ✨

At The MEND Project, we honor your story and your pace.

It is our mission to provide you with the support you need to make sense of your experience as you heal.

This webinar is designed to share all of our MEND tools and resources with you to propel you on your journey toward self-restoration.

We’ll explore all that’s available to you along the way.

🗓 Save the Date: January 8th at 10 AM PST
🔗Link in bio to register

#SurvivorSupport #HealingJourney #EmotionalWellness #FromConfusionToClarity #EmotionalAbuseHealing #TraumaInformedSupport #HealingIsPossible #HealingForSurvivors #YouAreNotAlone #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #MENDProject #HopeAfterHarm


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5 months ago


📣 Upcoming Webinar: Your Guide to MEND’s Resources for Clarity and Healing

✨ Welcome to our first webinar of 2026 ✨

At The MEND Project, we honor your story and your pace.

It is our mission to provide you with the support you need to make sense of your experience as you heal.

This webinar is designed to share all of our MEND tools and resources with you to propel you on your journey toward self-restoration.

We’ll explore all that’s available to you along the way.

🗓 Save the Date: January 8th at 10 AM PST
🔗Link in bio to register

#SurvivorSupport #HealingJourney #EmotionalWellness #FromConfusionToClarity #EmotionalAbuseHealing #TraumaInformedSupport #HealingIsPossible #HealingForSurvivors #YouAreNotAlone #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #MENDProject #HopeAfterHarm


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5 months ago

📣 Upcoming Webinar - Scapegoating: Why It Happens and How to Heal

Have you been unfairly blamed, accused, labeled unjustly, called “the problem,” or wrongly held accountable, especially by those closest to you?

If yes, you may have been placed in the scapegoat role—a tactic used to deflect responsibility and silence those who see the truth.

Join us for our December webinar and walk away with:

💫 Clarity around the scapegoat role in family systems
💫 Validation for your story and your voice
💫 Tools for healing and boundary-setting

🗓 Save the Date: December 11th at 10 AM PST
🔗Link in bio to register

#Scapegoating #FamilyDysfunction #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #FamilyDynamics #TraumaHealing #TheMENDProject


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6 months ago

📣 Upcoming Workshop: False Accusations in a Relationship: The Emotional & Psychological Impact

Have you ever found yourself defending something that you know you didn’t say or do?

In this new workshop, we’re unpacking the impact of false accusations and how to reclaim clarity and trust in yourself.

💫You’ll learn:

💡 What false accusations really are and why they’re used
💡 How they show up in abusive dynamics
💡 The emotional toll they take
💡 How to recognize the pattern and protect your peace
💡 What healing looks like from the inside out

This is a space for you to reflect and return to truth.

💛 You can begin your story again.

🗓 Save the Date: November 13 at 10 AM PST
🔗Link in bio to sign up

#FalseAccusations #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #TheMENDProject #HealingFromAbuse #GaslightingRecovery #ClarityIsPower #DomesticAbuseAwareness #RestoreYourVoice #RelationshipHealing #YouAreNotTheProblem


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6 months ago

We’re honored to have been awarded a generous grant from the Samueli Foundation’s Breakaway Fund to bring our trauma-informed curriculum to Spanish-speaking survivors, responders, and professionals.

This support helps us remove language barriers so more people can recognize and respond well to hidden forms of emotional abuse and Double Abuse®.

Muchas gracias, Fundación Samueli! 💛

#SamueliFoundation #BreakawayFund #TraumaInformed #CovertEmotionalAbuse #DoubleAbuse


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7 months ago

We’re honored to have been awarded a generous grant from the Samueli Foundation’s Breakaway Fund to bring our trauma-informed curriculum to Spanish-speaking survivors, responders, and professionals.

This support helps us remove language barriers so more people can recognize and respond well to hidden forms of emotional abuse and Double Abuse®.

Muchas gracias, Fundación Samueli! 💛

#SamueliFoundation #BreakawayFund #TraumaInformed #CovertEmotionalAbuse #DoubleAbuse


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7 months ago

We’re honored to have been awarded a generous grant from the Samueli Foundation’s Breakaway Fund to bring our trauma-informed curriculum to Spanish-speaking survivors, responders, and professionals.

This support helps us remove language barriers so more people can recognize and respond well to hidden forms of emotional abuse and Double Abuse®.

Muchas gracias, Fundación Samueli! 💛

#SamueliFoundation #BreakawayFund #TraumaInformed #CovertEmotionalAbuse #DoubleAbuse


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7 months ago

Healing is both communal and personal 💛 Our generous donors make this educational and empowering community possible.

On October 16 at 10 AM PST survivors and supporters will come together to:

⭐️ Celebrate the impact our donors are making
⭐️ Share stories of courage and healing from our MEND community
⭐️ Learn practical ways to set and uphold boundaries–essential for us all.

Click 📣 Free Workshops Link 📣 in bio to register.

#SupportAbuseVictims #HealthyBoundaries #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #TogetherWeHeal #TheMENDProject


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7 months ago


Special 1-Hour Event Where Generosity and Healing Meet!

🕊 The first 30 minutes, you’ll hear how our donors' generous giving makes an immediate impact in the lives of survivors and responders worldwide.

✨ In the next 30 minutes, we’ll explore the important topic of boundaries. This workshop is for everyone, whether you’re healing yourself or supporting someone else.

Please join us on October 16 at 10:00 AM PT for our Virtual Giving Event and Boundaries Workshop.

Click the link in our bio “📣 Free Workshop 📣” to register.

We hope to see you there!

#boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #recoveringfromemotionalabuse #protectingmypeace #knowyourvalue #empoweredliving #supportsurvivors #traumahealing #cptsdwarrior #abuseadvocates


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7 months ago

Special 1-Hour Event Where Generosity and Healing Meet!

🕊 The first 30 minutes, you’ll hear how our donors' generous giving makes an immediate impact in the lives of survivors and responders worldwide.

✨ In the next 30 minutes, we’ll explore the important topic of boundaries. This workshop is for everyone, whether you’re healing yourself or supporting someone else.

Please join us on October 16 at 10:00 AM PT for our Virtual Giving Event and Boundaries Workshop.

Click the link in our bio “📣 Free Workshop 📣” to register.

We hope to see you there!

#boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #recoveringfromemotionalabuse #protectingmypeace #knowyourvalue #empoweredliving #supportsurvivors #traumahealing #cptsdwarrior #abuseadvocates


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7 months ago

Abuse doesn’t always leave bruises. But it always leaves an impact.

I sat down with Karen McMahon on the @journey_beyond_divorce podcast to talk about emotional and covert abuse, and the retraumatization that happens when survivors seek help but are dismissed or disbelieved.

We covered what abuse really looks like, why so many professionals still miss the signs, and how you can begin healing with the right kind of support.

🎙️ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube

#DoubleAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #CovertAbuse #TheM3NDProject #AbuseRecovery #JourneyBeyondDivorce #YouAreNotAlone


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8 months ago

💛 Share your story 💛

Your voice matters!

We’re inviting our MEND community to share a 30-second video about how The MEND Project has impacted you.

Your story will be shared during our Virtual Giving Event on October 16, 2025 to show donors the real and powerful impact of their generosity.

✨ No names required (you may remain anonymous).
📹 Just 30 seconds, recorded from the shoulders up, in a quiet, well-lit space.
⏰ Deadline to submit: September 15, 2025

Link in bio to submit.

Together, we can show the world that healing and hope are possible.

#TheMENDProject #YourVoiceMatters #HealingTogether #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #SurvivorVoices #TraumaInformed #StoriesOfHope #CommunityHealing #NonprofitLove


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8 months ago


Ver Historias de Instagram en Secreto

El Instagram Story Viewer es una herramienta sencilla que te permite ver y guardar en secreto historias, videos, fotos o IGTV de Instagram. Con este servicio, puedes descargar contenido y disfrutarlo sin conexión cuando lo desees. Si encuentras algo interesante en Instagram que quieras revisar más tarde o si prefieres ver historias de forma anónima, nuestro visor es perfecto para ti. Anonstories ofrece una excelente solución para mantener tu identidad oculta. Instagram lanzó la función de Historias en agosto de 2023, adoptada rápidamente por otras plataformas debido a su formato dinámico y temporal. Las Historias permiten a los usuarios compartir actualizaciones rápidas, como fotos, videos o selfies, mejoradas con texto, emojis o filtros, y son visibles por solo 24 horas. Este marco de tiempo limitado genera un alto compromiso en comparación con las publicaciones regulares. En el mundo actual, las Historias son una de las formas más populares de conectar y comunicarse en redes sociales. Sin embargo, al ver una Historia, el creador puede ver tu nombre en su lista de visualizaciones, lo cual puede ser una preocupación de privacidad. ¿Qué hacer si deseas explorar Historias sin ser detectado? Aquí es donde Anonstories resulta útil. Te permite ver contenido público de Instagram sin revelar tu identidad. Simplemente ingresa el nombre de usuario del perfil que te interesa, y la herramienta mostrará sus Historias más recientes. Funciones de Anonstories Viewer: - Navegación anónima: Mira Historias sin aparecer en la lista de visualizaciones. - Sin cuenta requerida: Ve contenido público sin necesidad de registrarte en Instagram. - Descarga de contenido: Guarda cualquier Historia directamente en tu dispositivo para usarla sin conexión. - Ver Destacados: Accede a Destacados de Instagram, incluso fuera del período de 24 horas. - Monitoreo de reposts: Rastrea reposts o niveles de compromiso en Historias de perfiles personales. Limitaciones: - Esta herramienta solo funciona con cuentas públicas; las cuentas privadas permanecen inaccesibles. Beneficios: - Amigable con la privacidad: Mira cualquier contenido de Instagram sin ser detectado. - Fácil y sencillo: Sin instalación de aplicaciones ni registro necesario. - Herramientas exclusivas: Descarga y gestiona contenido de formas que Instagram no ofrece.