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Serious/Sincere

I tend to take myself seriously. Especially when I’m putting myself out there or I feel like it’s part of my identity. Making things, being creative, my career, anything that feels like I’m holding something up and saying “This is part of me”. There’s this internal pressure to be good at them so that I and other people see that I’m genuine. Coming from punk/skate culture I definitely do not want to be a poser 😂

Taking things seriously it doesn’t leave me much room for levity and whimsy in those places.I’ve realized lately that instead of taking things seriously, what I really want is to be sincere about them.

So I made a bluetooth speaker that was a fun way to mix a bit of woodworking and programming together. I got to learn some new skills in both areas experiment with some shapes and ideas I haven’t tried before.

Serious/Sincere

I tend to take myself seriously. Especially when I’m putting myself out there or I feel like it’s part of my identity. Making things, being creative, my career, anything that feels like I’m holding something up and saying “This is part of me”. There’s this internal pressure to be good at them so that I and other people see that I’m genuine. Coming from punk/skate culture I definitely do not want to be a poser 😂

Taking things seriously it doesn’t leave me much room for levity and whimsy in those places.I’ve realized lately that instead of taking things seriously, what I really want is to be sincere about them.

So I made a bluetooth speaker that was a fun way to mix a bit of woodworking and programming together. I got to learn some new skills in both areas experiment with some shapes and ideas I haven’t tried before.

Serious/Sincere

I tend to take myself seriously. Especially when I’m putting myself out there or I feel like it’s part of my identity. Making things, being creative, my career, anything that feels like I’m holding something up and saying “This is part of me”. There’s this internal pressure to be good at them so that I and other people see that I’m genuine. Coming from punk/skate culture I definitely do not want to be a poser 😂

Taking things seriously it doesn’t leave me much room for levity and whimsy in those places.I’ve realized lately that instead of taking things seriously, what I really want is to be sincere about them.

So I made a bluetooth speaker that was a fun way to mix a bit of woodworking and programming together. I got to learn some new skills in both areas experiment with some shapes and ideas I haven’t tried before.

Serious/Sincere

I tend to take myself seriously. Especially when I’m putting myself out there or I feel like it’s part of my identity. Making things, being creative, my career, anything that feels like I’m holding something up and saying “This is part of me”. There’s this internal pressure to be good at them so that I and other people see that I’m genuine. Coming from punk/skate culture I definitely do not want to be a poser 😂

Taking things seriously it doesn’t leave me much room for levity and whimsy in those places.I’ve realized lately that instead of taking things seriously, what I really want is to be sincere about them.

So I made a bluetooth speaker that was a fun way to mix a bit of woodworking and programming together. I got to learn some new skills in both areas experiment with some shapes and ideas I haven’t tried before.

One of my favorite things is having my boys pick really ambitious challenges or goals and getting to support them and watch them accomplish it.

This summer Rocky decided that he wanted to run a marathon and today I got to watch him finish with a great time and a great pace. To say I’m beyond proud of him would be an understatement. I’m so impressed and amazing by him and so happy I was able to be there.

You killed it @7r0cky

One of my favorite things is having my boys pick really ambitious challenges or goals and getting to support them and watch them accomplish it.

This summer Rocky decided that he wanted to run a marathon and today I got to watch him finish with a great time and a great pace. To say I’m beyond proud of him would be an understatement. I’m so impressed and amazing by him and so happy I was able to be there.

You killed it @7r0cky

One of my favorite things is having my boys pick really ambitious challenges or goals and getting to support them and watch them accomplish it.

This summer Rocky decided that he wanted to run a marathon and today I got to watch him finish with a great time and a great pace. To say I’m beyond proud of him would be an understatement. I’m so impressed and amazing by him and so happy I was able to be there.

You killed it @7r0cky

The Mantra Lamp

I’ve always had a pretty harsh inner narrative and recently I have been able to recognize the negative impact it has in how I view myself internally and in the world. I’ve been skeptical of positive affirmations or mantras because it always felt a kind of silly but mine came about pretty organically, starting with a phrase at the beginning of yoga and then it made its way into my morning pages. Some days I believe it and some days I don’t. On the days I don’t believe it, I can at least recognize it’s aspirational and may not be literal just yet.

The Mantra Lamp

I’ve always had a pretty harsh inner narrative and recently I have been able to recognize the negative impact it has in how I view myself internally and in the world. I’ve been skeptical of positive affirmations or mantras because it always felt a kind of silly but mine came about pretty organically, starting with a phrase at the beginning of yoga and then it made its way into my morning pages. Some days I believe it and some days I don’t. On the days I don’t believe it, I can at least recognize it’s aspirational and may not be literal just yet.

The Mantra Lamp

I’ve always had a pretty harsh inner narrative and recently I have been able to recognize the negative impact it has in how I view myself internally and in the world. I’ve been skeptical of positive affirmations or mantras because it always felt a kind of silly but mine came about pretty organically, starting with a phrase at the beginning of yoga and then it made its way into my morning pages. Some days I believe it and some days I don’t. On the days I don’t believe it, I can at least recognize it’s aspirational and may not be literal just yet.

I’ve been working getting this one for awhile. Thanks for getting a clip of it and making it look rad @quiverworld ! #skateboardingisfun #slappysaturday

Last year a built a couple of end tables for my bedroom and decided it was time to make a matching shelf. I’ve never been much of a record collector. I’m not sure if what I have would even be considered a collection yet but it’s a start.

As I spend more time building furniture and having items in my house that are important to me the idea of physical objects and media and the routines and rituals that come with them feel more enjoyable. They’re an opportunity to slow down and be in the present.

Last year a built a couple of end tables for my bedroom and decided it was time to make a matching shelf. I’ve never been much of a record collector. I’m not sure if what I have would even be considered a collection yet but it’s a start.

As I spend more time building furniture and having items in my house that are important to me the idea of physical objects and media and the routines and rituals that come with them feel more enjoyable. They’re an opportunity to slow down and be in the present.

Last year a built a couple of end tables for my bedroom and decided it was time to make a matching shelf. I’ve never been much of a record collector. I’m not sure if what I have would even be considered a collection yet but it’s a start.

As I spend more time building furniture and having items in my house that are important to me the idea of physical objects and media and the routines and rituals that come with them feel more enjoyable. They’re an opportunity to slow down and be in the present.

Last year a built a couple of end tables for my bedroom and decided it was time to make a matching shelf. I’ve never been much of a record collector. I’m not sure if what I have would even be considered a collection yet but it’s a start.

As I spend more time building furniture and having items in my house that are important to me the idea of physical objects and media and the routines and rituals that come with them feel more enjoyable. They’re an opportunity to slow down and be in the present.

The Presence of Absence
I came across this phrase in a book I read last year and it’s stuck with me. It’s not a new concept necessarily. In visual art it’s negative space, in music it’s silence, Shel Silverstein wrote a story about it but in an emotional context it felt new to me. The phrase was used in a section about the felt sense of absence of key figures in your childhood. A lot of times it’s parents but at the root it’s missing those people in your life that give you a better sense of yourself, how you are seen by others and the reassurance needed to have and build secure attachment.

The result of that absence causes anxiety and insecurity in both plutonic and intimate relationships. For me, being more avoidantly attached, I can pull away from those relationships. Persons experiencing more anxious attachment may make bids for attention or ask for reassurance. Underneath, the insecurity seems to come from similar places but it comes out in different ways. 

This piece is a representation of that distorted view we can have of ourselves. It’s not a reminder that we’re broken but that the way we view ourselves isn’t entirely accurate.

The Presence of Absence
I came across this phrase in a book I read last year and it’s stuck with me. It’s not a new concept necessarily. In visual art it’s negative space, in music it’s silence, Shel Silverstein wrote a story about it but in an emotional context it felt new to me. The phrase was used in a section about the felt sense of absence of key figures in your childhood. A lot of times it’s parents but at the root it’s missing those people in your life that give you a better sense of yourself, how you are seen by others and the reassurance needed to have and build secure attachment.

The result of that absence causes anxiety and insecurity in both plutonic and intimate relationships. For me, being more avoidantly attached, I can pull away from those relationships. Persons experiencing more anxious attachment may make bids for attention or ask for reassurance. Underneath, the insecurity seems to come from similar places but it comes out in different ways. 

This piece is a representation of that distorted view we can have of ourselves. It’s not a reminder that we’re broken but that the way we view ourselves isn’t entirely accurate.

I’ve been trying to recognize patterns and cycles that I fall into in an effort not necessarily to avoid them but to be able to acknowledge them and keep pushing through. One of those is a pattern of fear. Sometimes it’s easy to recognize like when my legs start shaking when I try something new at the skatepark. The smaller instances show up for me as doubt and a lack of motivation.

I wanted to push myself on the drawers both with material and the joinery and as I got closer to starting them I found myself being interested in other projects or hobbies basically anything other than cutting up some fancy wood and risk ruining it. It felt good to be able to recognize and interrupt the cycle that would have ended up with an unfinished project sitting in my garage and instead have a table in my office.

My therapist likes to say “If you can name it you can tame it” which is a good reminder. I also like the wise words I was taught on Saturday mornings. Knowing is half the battle.

I’ve been trying to recognize patterns and cycles that I fall into in an effort not necessarily to avoid them but to be able to acknowledge them and keep pushing through. One of those is a pattern of fear. Sometimes it’s easy to recognize like when my legs start shaking when I try something new at the skatepark. The smaller instances show up for me as doubt and a lack of motivation.

I wanted to push myself on the drawers both with material and the joinery and as I got closer to starting them I found myself being interested in other projects or hobbies basically anything other than cutting up some fancy wood and risk ruining it. It felt good to be able to recognize and interrupt the cycle that would have ended up with an unfinished project sitting in my garage and instead have a table in my office.

My therapist likes to say “If you can name it you can tame it” which is a good reminder. I also like the wise words I was taught on Saturday mornings. Knowing is half the battle.

I’ve been trying to recognize patterns and cycles that I fall into in an effort not necessarily to avoid them but to be able to acknowledge them and keep pushing through. One of those is a pattern of fear. Sometimes it’s easy to recognize like when my legs start shaking when I try something new at the skatepark. The smaller instances show up for me as doubt and a lack of motivation.

I wanted to push myself on the drawers both with material and the joinery and as I got closer to starting them I found myself being interested in other projects or hobbies basically anything other than cutting up some fancy wood and risk ruining it. It felt good to be able to recognize and interrupt the cycle that would have ended up with an unfinished project sitting in my garage and instead have a table in my office.

My therapist likes to say “If you can name it you can tame it” which is a good reminder. I also like the wise words I was taught on Saturday mornings. Knowing is half the battle.

I haven’t made “just a box” in a little while and had the chance to make one as a gift. It was a good opportunity to take inventory of where I’m at and where I’ve been in developing my craft and internally. To turn around a look down the mountain for a bit.

Last year I read a book called Peak which was an exploration into gaining expertise. It talked a lot about deliberate practice which involves setting goals, pushing and challenging yourself and evaluating your self and areas for improvement. I also just finished a book on self-compassion which as expected is about being more kind to yourself and being more accepting of yourself, flaws and all.

Having both of those ideas top of mind while making this felt like a good balance of recognizing the flaws and areas I can still improve and also acknowledging progress.

I haven’t made “just a box” in a little while and had the chance to make one as a gift. It was a good opportunity to take inventory of where I’m at and where I’ve been in developing my craft and internally. To turn around a look down the mountain for a bit.

Last year I read a book called Peak which was an exploration into gaining expertise. It talked a lot about deliberate practice which involves setting goals, pushing and challenging yourself and evaluating your self and areas for improvement. I also just finished a book on self-compassion which as expected is about being more kind to yourself and being more accepting of yourself, flaws and all.

Having both of those ideas top of mind while making this felt like a good balance of recognizing the flaws and areas I can still improve and also acknowledging progress.

I haven’t made “just a box” in a little while and had the chance to make one as a gift. It was a good opportunity to take inventory of where I’m at and where I’ve been in developing my craft and internally. To turn around a look down the mountain for a bit.

Last year I read a book called Peak which was an exploration into gaining expertise. It talked a lot about deliberate practice which involves setting goals, pushing and challenging yourself and evaluating your self and areas for improvement. I also just finished a book on self-compassion which as expected is about being more kind to yourself and being more accepting of yourself, flaws and all.

Having both of those ideas top of mind while making this felt like a good balance of recognizing the flaws and areas I can still improve and also acknowledging progress.

I haven’t made “just a box” in a little while and had the chance to make one as a gift. It was a good opportunity to take inventory of where I’m at and where I’ve been in developing my craft and internally. To turn around a look down the mountain for a bit.

Last year I read a book called Peak which was an exploration into gaining expertise. It talked a lot about deliberate practice which involves setting goals, pushing and challenging yourself and evaluating your self and areas for improvement. I also just finished a book on self-compassion which as expected is about being more kind to yourself and being more accepting of yourself, flaws and all.

Having both of those ideas top of mind while making this felt like a good balance of recognizing the flaws and areas I can still improve and also acknowledging progress.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I just finished some pieces that are based around the differences between private and secret and how keeping things private vs keeping things secret feels internally. Privacy feels more like setting boundaries where secrecy feels like it comes more from a place of avoidance and fear.They are similar but different.

In the design of the boxes I wanted to play with the similarities of the private/secret concepts by using similar shapes but interpreted differently as well as each drawer being a representation of either privacy or secrecy.

I hope you enjoy them. The link in my bio leads to a bit more explanation if you’re interested.

I feel incredibly lucky when I get to watch these moments with my boys being friends and brothers. Getting to hear them laughing and playing together is everything I hoped it could be as they got older.

Yes, that’s a Dave & Buster’s guitar 😂

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

I’ve been diving into woodworking as a hobby a bit more seriously the last year or so and the idea of using it as an avenue to work through some personal stuff came up over the summer. Part of working through things is making an effort to be more open so here we are, or at least here I am, stepping quite a bit out of my comfort zone.

The pieces I’ve been working on are an exploration into my avoidant attachment style, how that shows up now and where it came from. It’s been an interesting process so far to say the least.

I put up a website that expands on each of the pieces if you’re interested www.iangrahamwoodworks.com

I hope you enjoy

He survived a full year of being an adult! Happy birthday to my favorite oldest child, Love you @zane__7